Peeping Tina

I saw this article posted on FB and holy comment section Batman. People had a lot of opinions about this one.

The Cliff notes version is that two women were seated behind a couple at a baseball game. The two women saw the wife sexting "Nancy" who was really a guy named Mark. The women took some photos of her sexting and wrote a note on the game program telling the hubby that she's probably cheating and gave her number if he wanted the photo of the sext.

The main opinion that was floating around was that people need to mind their own damn business. I don't 100% agree with that sentiment because if it was my relationship and my exposure to disease, I'd want to know. I don't care who is telling me or how they found out. The two women telling hubby about the sext wasn't wrong. Splashing it all over the internet, however, was.

The entire internet just became privy to a very personal saga for a couple that could be easily discovered with a few more details. We already know the city and 'Nancy.' This is not something that the couple should have to deal with publicly.

There are also a lot of things the public doesn't know because we're not in the situation. The biggest one that came up in the comments was that hubby might be abusive. That, among other possibilities, seem doubtful based on what we, the public, know.

Hubby is abusive and wifey is looking for a way out
I am highly skeptical that a woman who is being hit or manipulated would be bold/stupid enough to sext a man with hubby three feet away. Most normal women in not-horrible relationships wouldn't risk being found out that easily.

Possessive partners also tend to keep close tabs on the social media and messages that their partner sends. Why send them with him right there when he'll probably check your phone later? Why risk the potentially dangerous consequences of being found out?

The couple is poly or in an open marriage
Those relationships thrive on communication and honesty. The second someone starts keeping secrets, it all goes to hell. If they're relationship wasn't monogamous, why is Mark saved as Nancy?

Nancy is her writing partner and they were working on a romance novel
I was reaching for this one but given the number of people I know who write fiction or fanfic, this is not the stupidest someone has come up with for this.


Anyone who has never looked at someone else's text is full of crap. Whether accidentally or on purpose, it has happened. I was doing my morning shuffle off the train I ended up seeing someone reading an email from Laura. I have no idea what the email was about. I only saw the name but I wasn't trying to see anything.

I found one brilliant thing on some humor site where a woman complained to her friend that a guy kept spying on her texts while she was on the train. Her friend had her delete all the past messages and they went back and forth pretending to plan a hit until he got freaked out and went away. I tried to search for it but holy crap the internet is depressing.