And the Winner Is...

I heard someone on the phone at the gym recently bitching to her friend about how one of their friends has to everything better including when it came to their relationships.

She started dating someone suddenly her friend is dating someone. Not only that but she made a production on how he was taking her on better dates and doing more romantic things and here’s a bunch of super cute photos of us as a couple and look who’s relationship is on FB first. That last one got her going. Her friend said “It’s not real if it’s not on FB.”

They’re even having a contest over meeting each other’s families. She’s going to brunch with his parents over 4^th of July weekend and guess who is meeting her boyfriend’s folks on the 4^th?

Are you kidding me? High school called. They want their drama back.

This makes absolutely no sense to me. It sounds exhausting and more than a little insane. If shallow women devoted the energy used to compete with each other to better causes, the world would be in better shape.

I never use other people’s relationships as a yard stick for my own. Every relationship is different because all people are different. Comparing and competing undermines both the relationship and the friendship.

Why do women do this to each other? What are you proving? Does your success have more merit because it’s ‘better’ than your friend’s? Is your relationship more meaningful because it got a dozen likes first? How insecure and desperate for validation are you?

If I ever had a friend like a big part of me would want to screw with her. Make up a few things and see what she does. “This [random website] nominated us for couple of the month. Isn’t that great?” “Look at the great necklace he got me just because.” “We just had the most romantic dinner.” Another part would want to be the adult and let it all go. I wonder which side would win…

Music: Look At Me by Geri Halliwell