The following applies to both genders but men tend to be much simpler. Favorite sport/movie genre, favorite beer, favorite carry-out, and you’re a great SO. Men tend to be happy knowing a woman will put up with them.
Women are a bit more complicated but not by a lot. You just have to figure yours out.
My coworker’s SO has brought her flowers three times in the last month. When I told him she was going to get spoiled if he kept doing this, he replied “That’s the plan.” A friend of mine wants the three or four times a year at least. It’s a BFD. It can be a bouquet of carnations you grabbed at the grocery store but it’ll help keep her happy. I’m 100% neutral on flowers. Flowers are lovely and I always appreciate the gesture but if I never get them, I don’t care. I know a woman who doesn’t like flowers at all.
I would respond a lot better to a surprise that takes a little more effort or thought but was more subtle. I was coming over to my date’s house and we were probably going to grab carry-out. He surprised me with a lovely home cooked dinner. The flower-hater admitted to being the same way.
Women also require different levels of contact. One friend requires daily communication from her boyfriends. If I’ve been dating someone a while, daily contact is nice but I can’t guarantee I’ll have new and interesting things to say every day. A couple of phone calls and a few texts (on different days) a week will keep me happy.
The levels of contact are based on the assumption that you will be seeing us on a regular basis. Again, what's regular depends on the woman. I want at least once a week. More is lovely so long as I can get things done. I know women who want more. If you can't meet her standard for regular on a given week, the expectation for contact usually goes up. If you can't see us, we expect you to talk to us to try and make up for it. This rule is suspended and open to negotiation in instances such as military deployment and certain government jobs.
If you royally screw up, a lot of women will appreciate jewelry or a fancy dinner. While I will never say no to these, I’d rather have Caps tickets. I know some women who’d rather have Ravens tickets. You have to find what speaks to her
Bottom line: We need you to make an effort. We need to know and believe you care. Prove to us that we’re important, that this is where you want to be. Getting to know us and utilizing that knowledge is part of that.
There is only one universal: Tell us we’re pretty. Mean it when you say it and don’t overuse it but by god, say it.
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