Ditch the Attitude

There’s a weekly MeetUp I’m a huge fan of.  I met The Boy there and several awesome new friends. A local concert venue/bar does drink specials and an episode of Popular Fandom Show. It’s not exclusive to MeetUp but we usually bring 15-30 people each week

We chill for the Happy Hour, watch an episode, and then proceed to a nearby bar.  It is often Same Bar because we’re a big group and they can accommodate us with no notice on a Friday night. Given the variety of venues DC has to offer, some people want to try new places. Tensions have started arising because of the lack of overlap between people who complain about Same Bar every week and the people who suggest new places.

This was discussed in the comment section of last week’s event.  Ira said he wanted to go somewhere else.  Alec replied that if he can find a bar that can take 30 people with no notice on a Friday, we were all ears. (Alec later included a link to a new place.) I commented that I 100% agreed with him and was tired of people complaining without offering any alternatives.

A girl who either just started coming in the last few weeks or was coming with the MeetUp the first time (most of us had never met her before), replied “The people who complain about just ditch you guys anyway.” She added, “The people who go to Same Bar at least.” I don’t think the clarification was necessary but thanks for the added bitchiness.

I have a problem with New Bitch. She strikes me as someone who frequently has problems with other people but has no idea why. She hasn’t learned that it’s not what you say but how you say it. In this case, she said it in a way that offended at least three people.  NB is either lacking maturity, social grace, or both.

This was confirmed when Connor jumped in to say that bickering and animosity won’t solving anything. New Bitch said, “I didn’t see any animosity.” Really? Cause I think you were the only one.

Nobody likes complainers. If you would rather complain and ‘ditch’ everyone when we don’t do what you want, you come across as an entitled mean girl from 10^th grade. If you want to offer useful suggestions and ‘do your own thing’ if you dislike the group’s decision, that’s fine.

I prefer a cheaper venue than the usual one for any pre-event gathering. I don’t bitch but just go somewhere else and meet the group later. One post-event place we tried as tapas. It was nice but pricey. The Boy and I defected to Same Bar after an hour or two of socializing. Several others followed.

I have no idea what this week will bring but I’m hoping for limited drama this time around. I don’t foresee New Bitch becoming a regular.