My friend ‘Eliza’ dated ‘George’ a couple of years ago. It didn’t work out but they remained friends and have several friends in common. Both have dated since the split with Eliza have a couple of decent relationships and George having limited success.
George has never had
much interest in Eliza’s boyfriends. The avoidance was understandable but the
regular hissyfits afterwards were tiresome. He has now taken it to a new level.
George tried to get a
group together over FB for a nerd activity. When Eliza said she wanted to bring
her current boyfriend, Fitz, George, who was trying to organize the event in
the first place, he said he’d rather skip it.
A friend of both is
having a birthday party. He sent out a mass email with proposed dates. Eliza
said which date was good for her and her current BF. George said, to everyone,
that if Eliza was bringing her current BF, he wouldn’t be attending. However he
could make it if it was on the day that didn’t work for Eliza.
It’s hard to see your
ex in a new relationship. It sucks. I’ve been there. I went to a birthday party
in a studio apartment with my ex and his date in attendance. Did I mention it
was a few months after a messy breakup and I don’t particularly like him to
this day? The party was fun because we avoided each other masterfully. I didn’t
want to be the girl who started unnecessary drama.
If you have to avoid
the happy couple, do it. There’s nothing wrong with that. There is something
wrong with announcing it every time. It’s immature and obnoxious. You don’t
need to broadcast your personal issue when most of us can infer that ourselves.
Behavior like this starts drama and drags extra people along for the ride.
Don’t be this guy.
Music: All About You
by Melanie C
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