That ties into a party I was at last weekend. There was a guy there I’d met before and thought he was cute and could be interested/interesting. He was kind of shy and reserved and said he thought I was hot when he met me last week but had to work up the nerve to do something about it. We had fun and exchanged numbers.
I texted him that I met Rod Langway at Saturday’s hockey game. He texted me back that it should be a good game. Nothing else to report.
Dating etiquette dictates he should have called me Monday. I broke the unofficial rule by texting him within 24 hours (Rod Langway allows for some rule bending). I know not everyone got the same rule book but sometimes fun at a party is just fun. He did just enough for me to assume he was interested but now, I’m not so sure.
If he knows I’m interested and available so why not do something if the feeling is mutual? My friend made the argument that he made the last text so he’s might be waiting on me and he might not want to come on too strong. This is backed up by the fact that I can be a bit intimidating.
My friend even said maybe he’s going through the exact same anxiety and musings as I am.
That brings me to my big question. Do guys actually go this crap? I know no man parses for subtext, analyzes motives, and over thinks things like a woman but do they actually go through any of this?
Do guys have an internal debate over what’s too soon versus too long to call? Do you have to figure out the balance between coming on too strong and just strong enough? I have a hard time believing even nerd guys go through all this insanity.
Thursday Update: If you were wondering, we’re going out on Saturday. He’s still not overly chatty but he did the asking. Not sure what it means or what will happen but there's only one way to find out..
Music: Rolling in the Deep by Otherwise
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