I did one for the
guys so it’s only fair I’m doing one for the women. Much as I hate gender
stereotypes, men and women tend to differ in the same overall ways. Women are
talkers, thinkers, feelers whereas men tend toward doers and grunters.
Don’t Overcomplicate Him Men are simple. They spend little or
no time thinking about their feelings. A guy can sit and stare at the wall for
an hour and not think about a blessed thing. He does not see any issue with
this. If you must talk about feelings and where this is going, cut him a break.
He may not fully understand his feelings or have the ‘emotional vocabulary’ to
discuss them. Have these sorts of discussions only when necessary or not more
than once a month.
Actions Speak Louder than Words This is a lesson that applies to all
people but is paramount in your relationships. If he’s an inconsiderate jerk
part of the time but is really apologetic and sweet when you’re mad at him,
he’s an inconsiderate jerk. If he does something nice and thoughtful for you
for no reason, he’s nice and thoughtful. If he says he really likes you but
rarely calls you and doesn’t make much effort to see you, he doesn’t really
like you.
Give Him Space Most men aren’t overly chatty. Hell, I am chatty and I
still don’t have new stuff to say every day. Give him a little space on days
you’re not together. Don’t text him four times and wait anxiously for a
response. If he’s not responding, it’s for a reason. He can’t miss you and
think about the ways you make his life better if you don’t go away. If he’s not
talking to you for days at a time, please see above
Talk to Him Remember ‘men are simple?’ This means they don’t always think
that hard and suck at subtle. If there is something you want, ask for it. If
there’s something you want to do, say so. If there’s something that’s bothering
you, don’t hint or be passive-aggressive. Tell
him. You can’t get what you don’t ask for. “He should just know” only
applies if you’ve said it five times before. Don’t like it? Date a woman.
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