What is it with nerds
and an allergy to listening?
A friend whom I’ll call
Steve is interested in my friend Miranda. Steve is a quality guy and a good
storyteller but he doesn’t have the best job and is around average looks. Miranda
is sweet, bubbly, and very pretty. I’ve seen Miranda date a clever law student,
a successful career man, and a really good looking guy none of whom stuck. Despite
being very popular with the opposite sex, Miranda is enjoying being young and
single.
When Steve told me he
wasn’t being shy about expressing his interest, I tried to caution him away.
Better men have tried and failed and I told him about really good looking guy
and really clever guy. He dismissed it by saying maybe those guys were just not
her type, implying the hope that he was. I threw in that she genuinely does not
want a boyfriend to no avail.
If a woman cautions you
against dating her friend, listen to her.
She knows things you don’t and probably can’t tell you. She knows if her friend
is crazy, too high maintenance for you, doesn’t want a relationship, or is not
attracted to you. Ignore us at your wasted time and heartache.
The worst part is that
Steve pulled a full nerd. He’s flirted before and I heard him try a barely
concealed attempt at lending her something so he could see her again. At a
recent MeetUp he monopolized as much of Miranda’s time as possible but he still
won’t ask her out.
I’ve said it before and
I’ll say it again. Ask her out or back off. Attraction is not a war of attrition.
Latching on to her and hoping she’ll eventually ask you out is cowardly. If
you’re too scared of rejection to ask her, you don’t deserve her. If you
take nothing else from this post, let it be this paragraph.
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